Ever Wanted to Master the Art of Giving?

There are two types of women I work with: Those who know exactly what they want and will do whatever it takes to get it, and those who think they don't know what they want until we start talking about it. Then realize that they actually do know. But, they are either afraid of facing it or think they are being too selfish. 

Which one are you?

If you are of the first option, you are likely on your way to some major goals already. Keep going!

If you aren't the first, you're the second. And no shame. I am there off and on myself. No judgement. 

AND... let me take moment to remind you that you do deserve the same time and effort and energy and expense that those around you get. 

A friend once told me that she thinks about life like the instructions the flight attendants give: put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. Seriously great advice. Hard to follow turns out. 

Self care is critical step in order to help others

Women tend to give to everyone around them first, then to themselves. Which is also fine, if that makes you happy and not bitter, fulfilled and not resentful. So, notice how you feel when you give and determine if you are giving to yourself as well. 

I remember when I first heard the saying, "You are not responsible for anyone else's happiness." I felt so liberated, so free. If you know how the second half goes, you'll appreciate how that set me back for a moment. It says," And no one is responsible for your happiness." Ouch. I mean, it makes sense, but wouldn't it be nice it that was someone's job. To make us feel happiness. Yes! 

Self Care Tips

Since that isn't a real job description (excluding the scoop slinger at my local Baskin Robbins), I turned the magnifying glass on my own habits. Turned out I wasn't giving myself the love I deserved. So I made some changes. I got up earlier so I had some peaceful quiet time to stretch my body and to set my intention for the day. Not planning, just a word or mantra to give direction to my thoughts and actions. These little shifts helped me tackle the mornings with a better attitude. 

At night, I took a few minutes to write down five things I was grateful for across the day. This review helped settle my mind and turn my focus to the positive. I also started to meditate for just 5-10 minutes to relax from the stressors of the daily grind. My sleep improved which made the earlier mornings easier. 

One by one the pieces fell into place that added happy moments to my day. 

You too can find moments of contentment and peace, even in the most hectic of schedules. You have to choose to make time for them though. But after all, you deserve it.